Envy
Like jealousy, the feeling of envy is not abnormal and often occurs when you feel disadvantaged or you discover a deficiency in yourself because others have things you would like to have yourself. Most envious people find themselves in the close social environment of friends and acquaintances. The object of desire can be quite different.
From a piece of chocolate, talents or successes to objects of value, everything is possible. There are three forms of envy. With destructive envy, affected people are so envious that they would like to destroy the object of desire if they cannot possess it, because otherwise no one should have it. In comparison, in depressive envy, sufferers are so intimidated by the success of others that their self-confidence suffers and hinders them in their quest for success. The opposite of this is positive envy, in which the success of others is an incentive and has a motivating effect.
Accompanying symptoms – jealousy rarely comes alone
Jealous people usually experience the painful feeling that makes them become suspicious and question the actions of others. The greater the jealousy becomes, the more likely it is that the jealous person will act. For example, cell phones may be searched to find evidence or more control calls or messages may be sent.
Some people who suffer from intense jealousy start spying on the person they mistrust in order to catch them red-handed, to weigh every word they say or to ask acquaintances and friends about their behavior in order to get supposed clues. In the worst case an increased jealousy can turn into a jealousy mania. The difference between an increased jealousy and a merely increased jealousy lies in the fact that in a delusional state, it is no longer possible to let go of the thoughts of jealousy, and usually there are distorted perceptions and ideas that are far removed from reality.
Often, the social environment is not able to dissuade the affected person from the delusional jealous thoughts. However, such delusions are not very common and are more likely to occur in people with psychiatric conditions such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. Fear of loss describes the worry of losing things or people who have played an important role in a person’s life.
To a certain extent, these concerns are also justified. It becomes problematic when the fear of loss becomes too strong, as those affected often burden their environment with their fears and cause stress. In doing so, they usually behave too affectionately or compulsively, which can actually lead to the loss of a person.
Affected people often do not realize that their convulsive behavior is the cause for the occurrence of the feared situation. Anyone who grew up with parents with fear of loss or who has been confronted with loss himself or herself can be prone to fear of loss. This also applies to people whose parents separated in childhood or whose feelings were not taken seriously by their parents.
You can find everything else on this topic under: Fear of lossPrejudiced jealousy can degenerate into violent behavior or abusive insults. Jealous men in particular tend to use violence out of frustration when their partner is thought to be misbehaving. This violence is usually rarely shown towards the rival but rather towards the “object of desire” such as the partner.
But not every jealous person automatically becomes violent. Often it is an indication of suppressed and pent-up frustration, which is fired by the feeling of helplessness or incapacity to act, looking for an outlet. In such a case, psychotherapy should be considered in any case, as this indicates severe jealousy. or How can stress be reduced?
