Sex – the child is well protected
Fathers in particular often worry that they could harm their unborn child during sex during pregnancy. However, the baby is well protected in the mother’s womb by the uterus, the amniotic fluid and the surrounding muscles, so that vibrations do not harm it. Even if the belly becomes hard during orgasm and the uterus pulsates, the child is fine. Anatomically, it is not possible for the man’s penis to penetrate the baby.
As the body changes, so does sex
Pregnancy can be accompanied by symptoms such as nausea and vomiting, especially in the first few weeks. Tiredness, mood swings and aching breasts also usually limit a woman’s sexual desire. Many pregnant women are more in the mood for closeness, cuddling, caressing or a relaxing massage.
Second trimester of pregnancy: sex becomes more pleasurable
In the second trimester of pregnancy, nausea and fatigue usually decrease, and for most women a pleasurable time with new erotic sensations begins. Hormones cause the genital area to be supplied with more blood. Fuller breasts, sensitive nipples and more vaginal secretions mean that pregnant women orgasm more easily during these weeks.
In addition, many fathers-to-be are attracted to their partner’s new curves and feminine shapes. Love life is very fulfilling for many couples in this phase of pregnancy.
Last third of pregnancy: sex often becomes tedious
Towards the end of pregnancy, most women’s complaints increase again. Back pain, heartburn, a big belly and the leakage of colostrum from the breast can put a damper on the desire to have sex during pregnancy. However, if you feel comfortable in your body and there are no risks from a gynecological point of view, there is no reason not to have sex even in advanced pregnancy.
However, the belly often gets in the way and the usual positions no longer work. Many women then find a side-lying or sitting position comfortable.
Shortly before the due date, sex during pregnancy sometimes has a helpful side effect: the hormone-like substances contained in semen, known as prostaglandins, can trigger contractions. They also soften the cervix and make it easier to open. But there’s no need to worry: this only works if your body is ready for the birth.
Hygiene is important!
By the way: Of course, the man must also pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene.
Bleeding after sex during pregnancy
Due to the improved blood flow in the genital area, it is not uncommon for there to be light bleeding after sex during pregnancy. This is not always a cause for concern. It is usually so-called contact bleeding, which can also occur after a vaginal examination. The bleeding in the vaginal mucus comes from the cervix, which is well supplied with blood. They are harmless and pose no danger to mother or child. They usually subside quickly. However, if the cause of bleeding is unclear, possibly combined with pain, you should always consult a doctor!
When should you refrain from having sex during pregnancy?
In some cases, your gynaecologist will advise you not to have sex during pregnancy, for example if it is a high-risk pregnancy. In general, it may be necessary to refrain from having sex during pregnancy in the following situations:
- Previous miscarriages or premature births
- premature labor
- premature opening of the cervix (perforated ligament)
- Loss of amniotic fluid
- placenta praevia (placental insufficiency)
- multiple pregnancy
- bleeding
- Infections
New forms of sex during pregnancy
That said, as mentioned above, sex during pregnancy may not be advisable for medical reasons.
In such cases, you and your partner can also try other forms of intimacy. Talk openly about your own wishes and possibly seek advice from a couples therapist, midwife or your gynecologist. Sex during pregnancy can take many forms – be creative and work with your partner to find a form of intimacy that you can both enjoy!
