Aggressiveness, self-sacrifice, alcoholism, fear of closeness, fear of relationships, etc. can be the result of entanglements in the family system of which those affected have no idea. Systemic Family Constellation is an amazingly simple and fascinating tool to get to the bottom of these issues and resolve them.
What happens during a family constellation?
6 – 10 strangers and an accomplished constellation facilitator meet in a protected space. The first constellator explains his or her problem, which he or she would like to illuminate in more detail. Then he selects from the participants the representatives of his family of origin or present family (parents, children, usually also grandparents, husband/wife, etc.). He then places these in the room.
Afterwards the “picture” is looked at. Who stands facing or facing away from whom, who is in the corner or in the center. Already from this “standing in relation to each other” it often becomes visible where a disturbance lies. Each individual is asked by the constellation leader how he feels, what he feels in the place assigned to him.
Resolve problems
Then follows a process of unwinding and working through to the root cause of the disturbance. Thus, what has been hidden inside until now becomes visible, viewable and understandable in the outer space. It is extremely important that all participants are accompanied, protected and supported by a professional constellation facilitator in this often very emotional situation.
Then the chosen representatives are rearranged – like on a chessboard – so that everyone gets a subjectively good place. Depending on the given circumstances, excluded people are appreciated with very specific solution sentences, guilt is returned to where it belongs, mother/father is accepted, responsibility is taken.
Conclusion
As simple as the method seems, as deep and lasting is its effect. The new solution image is internalized by the client and often has amazing and healing effects on symptoms of illness, fragile relationships, problem children or old mental injuries. A new family picture, in which love, acceptance and inner peace can be felt, can now emerge.
