Peak phase of puberty
The peak phase of puberty takes place between the ages of 12 and 16. This is puberty in the true sense. It comes to the cutting of the cord from the parents, which is often accompanied by many disputes and disagreements.
The girls and boys want to develop and want to break away from their parents to a certain extent. At the same time, the (unconscious) fear of parting from childhood plays a major role. The most important reference persons in this phase are the peers.
The sexual development during this phase of puberty runs at full speed. At first, this is usually embarrassing for the adolescents. In the peak phase of puberty, most boys and girls also begin their first couple relationship.
Since the contact to their peers and to their first great love plays a decisive role, they often have arguments with their parents. Also the topic of school achievement often plays a decisive role in the peak phase of puberty, because in this phase of life everything else seems to be more important than school. In the high phase of puberty, the topic of sexuality and contraception also plays a decisive role. So sooner or later it must be brought up for discussion by the parents. The high phase of puberty is the most difficult for parents because the children increasingly close their mouths and cut the umbilical cord and parents no longer know much about their children.
Late adolescent phase
The last phase of puberty, the late pubertal phase, begins around the age of 16 and lasts until the age of 18. In this phase, parents can “breathe again”. The potential for conflict has been significantly reduced, the young adults are more at peace with themselves, have a more stable self-esteem and can once again accept their parents more as discussion partners and advisors. The most difficult thing in this phase is probably for the parents to accept the increasing independence of the young person.It is the phase in which many children become more and more detached from their parents, both emotionally and spatially. This process can be very painful and difficult to accept, especially for the parents.